Üsküdar University Rector psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: "There is a type of mother we call (drone mother) who hovers over the child like a shadow, knows his relationship with his friends and everything like his shadow, and does not want anything to be done without asking him. This mothering style can also be called 'drone, invader or helicopter mother'. When children of this type of mother come to us, we leave the child and evaluate the mother and the family.""As a mothering style, we recommend a mother who is a democratic mother and can establish a horizontal relationship with her child, not an 'imperious and drone mother'"
Üsküdar University Rector Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that there is a type of mother, also called "drone mother", who hovers over the child like a shadow, and said, "As a mothering style, we recommend a mother who is a democratic mother and can establish a horizontal relationship with her child, not an 'imperious and drone mother'."
Prof. Tarhan said that they define mothers who take care of their children with the same sensitivity when they grow up as they did when they were babies as "drone mothers".
Prof. Dr. Tarhan emphasized that developmental and personal problems arise in the children of mothers who constantly hover over their children like a "drone", follow them wherever they go, interfere with what they eat, drink, wear and intervene in everything they do.
Stating that being a "drone mother" is a personal problem, Tarhan said, "These mothers continue the same mothering style when the child reaches the age of 10, 15, 20, just as they protect and care for their children during infancy. Due to the overprotective and interventionist mothering style, entrepreneurship and assertiveness in the children of these mothers are blunted, and various behavioral disorders with a loser and lazy structure occur."
"An overly controlling mother bores the child's soul"
Nevzat Tarhan emphasized that "drone mothers" are also overly controlling and stated that this situation poses a danger as it is a motherhood model that "bores the child's soul too much".
Explaining that some children, especially during adolescence, cannot accept this situation and that there are constant arguments between mother and child, Tarhan continued as follows:
"If there is a sense of autonomy in that child from a psychological point of view, both love and anger towards the mother emerges due to such situations, and even a child who kisses the mother many times and yells at her and gets relief from her emerges."
Prof. Dr. Tarhan emphasized that this type of motherhood is not right for the upbringing of the child and said, "There is a type of mother we call (drone mother) who hovers over the child like a shadow, knows his relationship with his friends and everything like his shadow, and does not want anything to be done without asking him. This mothering style can also be called 'drone, invader or helicopter mother'. When the children of this type of mother come to us, we leave the child and evaluate the mother and the family."
"If we do not abandon drone motherhood, we make the child a slave of the family"
Stating that such mothers can correct themselves if they realize what they are doing, Tarhan said that drone-type mothers prevent the development of children's talents.
Nevzat Tarhan also drew attention to the importance of raising children and gave the following warnings:
"When raising children, mothers should look at it like holding a bar of soap. We recommend sweet and loving discipline. As a mothering style, we recommend a mother who is a democratic mother and who can establish a horizontal relationship with her child, not a 'domineering and drone mother'. In other words, if there is a mothering and fathering style that does not talk to the child, but consults with the child, and descends to the same level so that the child can make eye contact while talking to the child, the child will feel that he belongs to the family and that he is free. We need to abandon drone motherhood, otherwise we make our children slaves of the family."
