Stating that violence is not only experienced physically, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, "Apart from verbal violence that takes place by raising the tone of voice, scolding and shouting, the fact that men or women do not show love to each other also emotionally knits the other party. People who are subjected to emotional violence feel worthless and inadequate," he warns. Prof. Tarhan points out that jealousy and neglect are also types of emotional violence.
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In 1999, the United Nations General Assembly declared November 25 as the "International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women". On this special day, the issue of violence against women is brought to the agenda to discuss and raise awareness.
Emotional violence makes women feel worthless and inadequate
Üsküdar University Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said that one type of violence is emotional violence.
Prof. Dr. Tarhan said, "When we talk about violence, it is not necessarily the flying of plates around or the raising of hands against women," and pointed out that emotional violence emotionally harms the individual. Prof. Dr. Tarhan said:]
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"Apart from verbal violence, which is characterized by raising the tone of voice, scolding and shouting, the lack of affection between a man or a woman can also be emotionally damaging. People who experience emotional violence feel worthless and inadequate. This form of violence occurs in marriages where there is a lot of criticism and creates feelings of guilt in the other person. Such people feel as if they are always committing crimes. They express their state of mind by saying, 'What I do, how I behave is a crime, looking to the right is a crime, looking to the left is a crime'."
Creating a sense of worthlessness psychological violence
Stating that arousing feelings of worthlessness in the other person is also psychological violence, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, "Another characteristic of a violent person is that he criticizes the other person very often. This is also a form of emotional violence. The person who criticizes creates a feeling in the other person that 'I am a superior and important person who can criticize!' Some types who wait for 'What can I do to find something to criticize?' and who take a special pleasure from criticism act with the feeling that 'Only superior people can criticize! This is not a developed feeling. Such people think that when their criticism is opposed, their superiority is opposed. At this point, a personality conflict begins."
Jealousy is also a form of emotional violence
Stating that jealousy is also a form of emotional violence, Tarhan said, "People make the person they have and do not want to share with suffer by being jealous of him/her; they hurt the person they are jealous of with excessive control and coddling. This behavior is more evident in people with puritanical moral characteristics. Such people interfere in everything and want to control almost the very soul of the other person. In fact, the person's 'interventionism' becomes so strong that the other person has nothing that can be called 'private'. For example, if his/her partner is thinking absent-mindedly, he/she wants to know immediately, asking, "What are you thinking now? However, it is natural for both parties to have a little bit of private life. The idea of 'I must be aware of everything!' leads people to emotional violence."
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Neglect is also a form of emotional violence
Stating that another characteristic defined as emotional violence is neglect, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, "Emotional neglect occurs in the form of not valuing feelings. There are also social and material neglect. For example, not meeting the material needs of one's home and not thinking about one's livelihood is also neglect. In surveys conducted among women, there are many women who say, "If I had money, I would not stay in this marriage!". Here money makes the woman feel powerful. This is very important for those who make marriage a power struggle. Marriage starts with love, but after a while it turns into a power struggle. During this struggle, both sides try to protect their own identity. This is a normal phase that every marriage goes through. However, this conflict can also lead to violence. If the spouses are wise, after a while they can find a middle ground. After this stage, marital bonds will start to develop."
