You choose to be angry

You choose to be angry

Uncontrolled anger brings violence with it. Stating that anger is caused by the meanings attributed to the event as opposed to the event experienced, experts said, "Emotions are shaped by the meaning we attribute to a situation when we encounter it. In fact, it is not the event that makes us angry, it is our thoughts about that event, the meanings we attribute to the event and the experience of that emotion," emphasizing that anger control can be learned with awareness, desire and exercise in the face of events.

Specialized from Üsküdar University NPISTANBUL Hospital. Psychologist Simge Alevsaçanlar said, "Violent behavior is a result and a reaction caused by the inability to control and manage intense emotions such as anger, sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, anxiety, fear, disappointment in a healthy way" and made important evaluations about anger control.

Anger is not caused by the event, but by the meaning attributed to the event

"It would not be correct to consider violent behavior as one-dimensional. There are multiple components that affect violent behavior. However, perhaps the most important of these is the way a person relates to intense emotions. Emotions are shaped by the meaning we attribute to a situation when we encounter it." Simge Alevsaçanlar said, "In fact, it is not the event we experience that makes us angry, but our thoughts about that event, the meanings we attribute to the event and the experience of that emotion. When a person perceives the emotions they experience as enemies, bad or weakness, etc., when they feel attacked by them, they may counterattack in order to ward off these emotions and restore their emotional balance. In such a situation, the person's attack may be against the person or factors that he/she thinks caused the unwanted situation."

The thought that crimes will go unpunished triggers violence

Simge Alevsaçanlar said, "There are many other reasons for the increase in violent incidents today." "In recent years in our country, it is noteworthy that a considerable part of the society believes that the legal processes do not work fairly enough. Experiences and beliefs that the justice system does not work well enough reinforce the idea that crimes will go unpunished. This increases the likelihood of inappropriate behaviors such as violence and reduces people's need to control their behavior. The weaker the belief that a significant price will be paid as a result of violent behavior, the more likely it is that the behavior will be carried out. The mind quickly makes a cost-benefit calculation, and if there is no harm or if it can be afforded, stopping or preventing the behavior decreases to the same extent. In this case, it increases the tendency for violent behavior to occur."

The use of news language normalizes violence!

Stating that another important point is that news about violence in the media is often presented in a way that justifies violence, Alevsaçanlar continued her words as follows:

"'He brutally killed his daughter who was in forbidden love', 'He stabbed the doctor when the treatment did not give good results', 'When he could not find a response to his love, he beat her in the middle of the street', the publication of violence as news by showing a reason may lead to the rationalization and normalization of violent behavior, which may increase the incidence of aggressive behaviors.

TV series and movie characters play a big role on behaviors!

In addition to the news in the media, violent behavior is frequently seen in characters in TV series and movies; especially male figures are identified with aggressive, violent, angry characters, and this may cause young people, especially young segments of the society, to adopt these characters as role-models and therefore to adopt the behaviors of these characters as an example. For this reason, the messages given through characters in TV series and movies can be an important factor in increasing the prevalence of violent behavior. Violent games also increase the prevalence of violent behavior, especially among young people."

It is possible to control anger!

"Anger is an emotion, just like sadness, joy and sorrow. Every emotion is important and necessary in human life, including anger. The important thing is to experience and express this emotion appropriately." Psychologist Simge Alevsaçanlar,

"This is a skill that can be learned, just like any other skill we learn in life. While some of us have no problem with it, others need to improve themselves in this regard. The first step in anger control is to change the way one relates to the emotion of anger, to recognize the emotion and accept it without judgment, without separating it into good and bad, instead of seeing it as an enemy or a poison to be avoided. This makes the person calmer and more in control. The next step is to identify and re-evaluate our thoughts that cause anger. We often react to thoughts that pass through our minds quickly and automatically, accepting them as true without realizing it. In anger management, it is necessary to recognize and re-evaluate our often distorted thoughts that cause and exacerbate our anger. Finally, it is necessary to learn how to express anger in a controlled and calm manner on the field, rather than out of the blue. This whole process can be learned with awareness, desire and enough exercise."

Children learn violence!

Uzm. Psychologist Simge Alevsaçanlar said, "The behavior and reactions of our parents or caregivers are very critical in learning a behavior in childhood." and concluded his words as follows:

"Observation and modeling is an effective way of learning, and children learn many behaviors in this way. For this reason, the behavior pattern shown when there is a conflict between family members at home is of great importance for the child to show a similar behavior pattern in the future. If there is domestic violence at home and the child witnesses or is exposed to it, he/she will probably tend to show aggressive behavior in the face of problems in his/her adult life. But this is not an absolute reality. It is not correct to generalize that every person with violence in the family will show similar behaviors in adulthood. Instead, it would be more accurate to say that it increases the risk in this direction."

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Updated At05 March 2024
Created At08 October 2018
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