The development of a child's personality starts very early on and affects the later stages of life. Stating that parents give love and education to the child, experts point out the importance of the dose of this love. Emphasizing the importance of discipline for child development, experts say, "An undisciplined love actually leaves the child in a vacuum. Just like a family that rejects too much, a family that loves too much also harms the child. This negatively affects the formation of the child's personality and identity."
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Child and Adolescent Specialist Clinical Psychologist Leyla Arslan from Üsküdar University NPISTANBUL Hospital drew attention to the attitude mistakes made in the personality development of children.
Family attitudes are effective throughout life
Leyla Arslan pointed out the importance of healthy physical and psychological development of children and pointed out that the most important issue in child development is the attitude of parents. Specialist Clinical Psychologist Leyla Arslan stated that family attitudes have a great impact on the child's personality development as well as their future lives.
Rejection leaves a lifelong scar
Stating that the first condition for becoming a parent is that the family should feel ready to have a child, Leyla Arslan warned, "If this does not happen, if children are born in an unwanted way at an unwanted time, these children are children who are rejected by their parents, and this rejection is an attitude that leaves a mark on the child's whole life."
Rejection makes children aggressive
Noting that the worst parental attitude is to reject the child, Leyla Arslan said, "This makes the child aggressive and asocial. The child never knows what to do, what is right and wrong, and becomes someone who seeks approval, and even when he/she cannot get it from his/her parents, he/she wants to get it from his/her friends outside and becomes a gang leader and gets into jobs that attract attention. No matter how much we look at it, we see that the effects and attitudes of the mother and father are very important under all maladaptive behaviors."
Dosage of love is important
Stating that parents give two important things to their children, which are love and education, Leyla Arslan, an Expert Clinical Psychologist from Üsküdar University NPISTANBUL Hospital, said: "The dose of this love is important, the way you give love is important. Just like a family that rejects excessively, a family that loves excessively harms their child. This negatively affects the child's personality and identity formation. An undisciplined love actually leaves the child in a vacuum and discipline is very important in child development."
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Do not do everything the child asks
Noting that children can only be taught what to do, where to do it and when to do it through the discipline they are given, Arslan said, "That is why parents develop certain behavioral patterns while giving all this. For example, some parents only think about their own comfort, and children can do whatever they want if they leave them alone. In such a situation, the child does whatever they want, right or wrong. The mother also does everything the child says, in such a situation the child becomes spoiled and selfish."
The child should be well observed
Leyla Arslan emphasized that the child should learn right and wrong and that the guidance of the family is very important in this regard, and gave the following advice
"The most positive behavior for parents is to accept, love, be affectionate, be tolerant and allow the child to create a living space for himself/herself. It is very important to ensure that the child progresses at his/her own pace of development. The child does not have to be the person we want. The biggest mistake parents make is to want to mold the child into the mold they want. This is where the conflict starts. In fact, parents have to be a spectator and understand the child's interest, curiosity and development. Parents should know themselves first and be aware of their own behavior and attitudes. They should observe children very well because every child is different from birth."
