"Stalker", also known as secret stalking, which has entered our lives with technology, prolongs the mourning period, especially in relationships that have just ended.
'SECRET STALKING' PROLONGS MOURNING IN RELATIONSHIPS!
Pointing out that the mourning process that should be experienced after every breakup cannot be completed, experts warned, "The person cannot take steps for a new relationship, the anger towards the other continues to increase, the depressive feelings expected to be experienced during the mourning process are replaced by more severe depression."
Clinical Psychologist Orçun Aykol from Üsküdar University NP Etiler Polyclinic said that the concept of "secret stalking", also known as "stalking", which is frequently used in social media, prolongs the mourning period in relationships that have ended, which leads to other important problems.
SEPARATION CANNOT END MENTALLY
Expert Clinical Psychologist Orçun Aykol made the following evaluations:
"Today, it is a well-known fact that social media being at the center of life has led to the emergence of new syndromes and new terms. The most important of these is the term "stalking", which refers to constantly following someone or what someone is doing, sometimes "secretly".
Stalking is also used to learn every detail of a person's life. As such, the most common situation we usually encounter is the continuation, perhaps obsessively, of a relationship that has ended, especially in the mind of the person. By stalking the other person and being aware of their every step, the person starts to question their own value and the breakup cannot end mentally."
THE MOURNING PROCESS MUST BE COMPLETED
Pointing out that the mourning process should be experienced in a healthy way, Aykol said, "Based on clinical experiences, it can be said that although the separation is physical for the person, it cannot be achieved spiritually and the mourning, which is a healthy process that should be experienced after every separation, cannot be completed. When this mourning process cannot be completed, the person cannot take steps for a new relationship, the anger towards the other continues to increase, the depressive feelings expected to be experienced during the mourning process are replaced by more severe depression, and this behavior becomes compulsive (repetitive behaviors that cause uneasiness when not done)."
STOP FOLLOWING
"To get rid of this, first accept the breakup," advised Specialist Clinical Psychologist Orçun Aykol, "No matter what happens, unfollow the other party's social media accounts and block them if necessary. Remember that being separated is not about you being worthless/inadequate, it is about the end of the relationship."
SUPPORT SHOULD BE SOUGHT IF THE DEPRESSIVE PERIOD IS PROLONGED
Emphasizing that depressive feelings following a separation are normal up to a certain level, Specialist Clinical Psychologist Orçun Aykol said, "However, if this makes your life very difficult, if you cannot do what you need to do, if there is a deterioration in your sleep, appetite and professional functionality, you should seek psychiatric support. Do not be late for this," she warned.