If your child plays with the phone too much, if you say 'My child is too attached to the phone, what should I do? Events are organized within Üsküdar University Europe. Especially the activities organized on child psychology and education are carried out with an intense participation.
The event titled "How do we ensure our child's socialization?" given by Specialist Psk.Eda Yavaş Togaer from Üsküdar University NPISTANBUL Hospital via teleconference attracted great interest from our citizens in Germany.
Uzm.Psk.Eda Yavaş Togaer's explanations about phone addiction...
WE PUT THE CELL PHONE IN THE CHILD'S HAND
We, as adults, should first use smartphones in a controlled manner so that we can be a proper and correct model for the child. From the moment the child starts to communicate, we put a cell phone in the child's hand so that they can eat or so that we can do our work.
WE CANNOT GET THE CELL PHONE OUT OF OUR LIVES
The child learns to focus with a device like a TV or a cell phone that gives constant stimulation. Over time, they learn to socialize with the cell phone in different ways, such as playing games. In this century, we cannot completely eliminate the cell phone from our lives.
WHY CHILDREN ARE CURIOUS ABOUT CELL PHONES
Children need cell phones to chat with their peers, to keep up with the world. We do not want to use the word addiction much before the age of 18. For those under 18, we describe the behavior as "problematic use".
THEY DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE
First of all, we need to give healthy answers to the questions of what the child does with his phone and how much time he spends with it. In order to be able to say problematic use, we need to look at how much it affects the child's functionality. Does he use it only for socializing or does he never leave his room and only deals with the phone.
Children who do not feel comfortable among their friends, children who avoid one-to-one communication can turn to cell phones. They may just want to play games or not want to spend time with the family may also lead children to the phone.
FOLLOW THE CHILD VERY WELL
The family should pay attention to these points, follow the child very well and give clear answers to these questions. Children with insufficient self-confidence, children with social relationship problems may be more fond of the phone. It is also necessary to give a clear answer to the question of whether the phone is the child's own habit or whether he/she imitates others. So how should we approach children about their cell phone habits? We need to understand children well and investigate the reasons for their tendencies in this regard.
TALK TO EACH OTHER
Instead of imposing rules and prohibitions on our own, we should talk to the child and find a common path. It is necessary to explain the harms of excessive use very clearly to the child and to create a perception of harm. Compliance with the rules set in cooperation with the child will be higher. Removing the phone completely from the child's life causes a very serious reaction.
EVERYONE'S RULES ARE DIFFERENT
If he/she studies first, it is a healthy way for him/her to use his/her cell phone within a jointly determined period of time. Everyone's home rules are different. If there is a rule in your home about buying a cell phone at a certain age, you should not buy it because someone else's parents bought it at an earlier age. It is necessary to explain the rules in your home to the child and explain the situation in a healthy way.
ADOLESCENTS ARE MORE DIFFICULT
It is a little more difficult with adolescents. This is a time when parents experience more conflict with their children. It is important to explain the rules of the house to the adolescent, but also to show him/her that you understand him/her very well and that you care about his/her needs. If boundaries are set that both parties agree on, there will be a healthier communication. However, in any case, it is necessary to be aware of what the child uses the cell phone for and to follow up.